Help! She’s Hormonal! Ideas for Him
By Janel Breitenstein
So … maybe there’s that one week a month you’d rather live in your car.
Or when you were attending all those baby showers, why didn’t anyone mention the baby blues could take under the woman you love?
Or will your marriage survive the curveball of menopause?
You’re reading this because you really do want to be compassionate and understanding, even when you wish estrogen weren’t a third person in your marriage.
A few practical tips.
1. Thank God for her body. Those complex hormone levels are there by God’s design. They’ve created the body you love, its abilities (for many of us) to bear children, to respond with nurture, to display His gentleness.
Both genders reflect His image (Genesis 1:27). Rather than seeing her as something to be repaired, thank God for His wisdom, even when this feels out of your control.
2. Prepare in advance. Your wife may need more margin to respond to life stressors. First Corinthians 12 speaks of granting special care in weakness, so perhaps see this as an opportunity.
How could you…
- step in to some of her typical responsibilities, acting as her shield and advocate?
- strategize together about the family schedule?
- sacrifice in this season to preserve and protect your wife and home?
- agree to table major arguments until a time when she feels more settled?
- respond with more graciousness to her slip-ups?
3. Ask God for His compassion and wisdom.
4. Watch your mind game. When you’re tempted to write her off or roll your eyes, ask God what it looks like to love her as yourself—like you’d want her to respond in your angry or off days.
No, her hormones don’t need to govern your house. But consider how a season of weakness can be your opening to step up and love well.
The good stuff: I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. (Ephesians 4:1-3)
Action points: What thoughts and emotions do you associate with your wife’s hormones? How have they helped you mature in character, and what ways do you still hope to grow? How do you sense God asking you to respond in greater holiness to your wife?
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