By Hope Bolinger, Crosswalk.com
How do single Christians mix with Christians who have engaged in a monogamous marital relationship? One could argue that personal Bible study practices vary a great deal from one Christian to another. Hence why small group Bible study discussions among believers can benefit individuals as other Christians present findings from their own perspectives.
No one Christian can read the Bible cover to cover in the same way.
One could also point out that depending on which stage of life they have entered, Christians may glean more from certain passages than others.
Teens and young adults may find more to grasp from 1 Timothy 4:12 than Christians who are a bit more mature in years. New mothers would tend to gravitate more toward passages that talk about motherhood than female Christians who do not have children.
With that in mind, we may find those in our walk of life inclining to read more passages and subjects which they feel apply to them the most. Furthermore, these preferences may lend their way toward similar practices.
So whether you want to explore a different way to do your Bible study with a group of single Christians, or if your single Christians Bible study group needs some sense of direction, consider the following tips:Photo Credit: unsplash/AlexBlajan
Have at least one mature member of the faith in or leading the group
Christians need mentors who have had similar life experiences, so they can guide believers through the beginning stages of that season.
Granted, this member may not be single. Perhaps they went through a long season of singlehood and God, years later, presented a man or woman whom they would commit to in a lifelong marriage.
Also, maturity does not necessarily mean age. A born-again believer who has walked with the Lord for twenty years and is twenty-five years old may be a bit more mature in the faith than a 36-year-old who just professed Jesus as their Savior and Lord.
In your own Bible study group, you may fit into either the mentorship role or the mentee. However, many Christians may balk at the former, claiming they do not have enough expertise. In such circumstances, kindly remind them (or yourself) about the power of the Holy Spirit, who has worked through the most unlikely people in the Bible to change lives.
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Ensure accountability partners don't tempt each other
Often, Bible study groups will encourage members to pair off and keep each other accountable about daily Scripture readings, ask how to pray for one another, and provide encouragement.
In a single Christian group, one may face the temptation to pair off with someone of the opposite sex, especially if one feels as though God has called the two of them into a commitment that extends beyond friendship.
Having an accountability partner who will not tempt a believer in a romantic sense will save Christians from a great deal of hurt in their walk. If, for instance, the accountability partner and that believer get into a more committed relationship and break it off, they might associate Scripture readings with the bad experiences of that relationship, and that may jade them from staying consistent in their reading.
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The group may need to consider splitting into smaller sub-groups
Often, the church can link singleness to youth.
Although some single Christians do slide to the younger ages on the spectrum, churches can often forget about single parents, divorced singles, widowed singles (1 Corinthians 7:8), and Christian singles above the age of thirty.
When a church forms a singles Bible study group, they run the risk of isolating any group that doesn’t fit the Christian single mold.
When creating a Bible study group or deciding what to do with an existing one formed by a church, Christians should possibly consider ways they may need to subdivide to accommodate every single in the church. Or, they could consider doing groups based on age, whether single or married, so a 45-year-old single mother does not feel talked down to in a group of college-age singles.
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Try to go beyond cliched Bible studies
Many times, sermons geared toward singles can either sound too offensive, outdated, or hackneyed.
Consider, when pulling together curriculum or foci of the lessons to go beyond the cliched messages often directed at those who do not have a marital partner, have lost a marital partner, or who intend to lead a single lifestyle for the rest of their lives.
Go beyond the “true love waits” and the “make the most of the time you’re single while it lasts” messages.
Both are not true in all cases. Not every Christian will marry, or in the case of divorced and widowed Christians, marry again. Not every Christian will have a trajectory that involves a spouse.
Messages need to go beyond how-to-endure-the-“gift”-of-singleness. If believers call it a gift, they should treat it as such. Bible studies should focus more on how to love God, love others, and grow in Christ more than, “I’m praying really hard for God to bring my future husband to me at the right time.”
Perhaps a good way to do this is to have a person who is single and mature in their walk lead the group. Granted, other mentors who have married can participate and lead, but those who know which messages will have a greater impact on the audience (and will not offend or disinterest) should have some sway over the topics covered.
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Hope Bolinger is a literary agent at C.Y.L.E. and graduate of Taylor University's professional writing program. Having dealt with chronic anxiety for five years, she understands the struggle of anxious thoughts. More than 350 of her works have been featured in various publications ranging from Writer's Digest to Keys for Kids. She has worked for various publishing companies, magazines, newspapers, and literary agencies and has edited the work of authors such as Jerry B. Jenkins and Michelle Medlock Adams. Her column "Hope's Hacks," tips and tricks to avoid writer's block, reaches 3,000+ readers weekly and is featured monthly on Cyle Young's blog, which receives 63,000+ monthly hits. Her modern-day Daniel, “Blaze,” (Illuminate YA) released in June, and the sequel releases a year from now. Find out more about her here.