Waking Up Next to a Stranger
By Lisa Lakey
Rolling over in bed one morning, I was shocked to realize there was a strange man in my bed.
The man looked similar to someone I once knew: red hair (although I didn’t recall the white hairs sprinkled in), freckles, broad shoulders, large feet dangling carelessly off the edge.
Once upon a time, I married him.
If we aren’t intentional students of our spouses, we may one day find ourselves waking up to a stranger in the bed.
How often have you felt, no one really knows me? Chances are, your spouse has felt the same way.
Proverbs tells us to “rejoice in the wife of your youth” (5:18). When was the last time you got excited over your spouse?
Sure, they’ve changed. My redhead now has bits of white in his beard, but he is still the man I married. I just need to intentionally learn about the man God is growing him to be—and there is a lot to celebrate about that.
Come to think of it, my waistline isn’t what it was on our wedding day. But we have two beautiful children who grew inside that waistline. My husband might not stay up all night talking with me like he used to, but those slightly-more-wrinkled hands work more hours than he did in his 20s to provide for our family.
Your spouse should change. I’m thankful we aren’t the same kids as when we met 17 years ago. We’ve matured (mostly), grown (through good and bad), and life has weathered the two of us.
But there’s no one I’d rather wake up next to.
The good stuff: “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth … be intoxicated always in her love.” Proverbs 5:18-19
Action points: Get to know the person you married, even if it’s been 50 years since your vows. Plan a second “first date.” Over dinner or coffee, ask them questions to get to know them all over again.
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